A true Srivaishnavan is the one who feels the pain of others.
Krishna on the other hand says be disattached and don’t take anything to your heart.
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Srimatey Ramanujaya Namaha
“A true Srivaishnavan is the one who feels the pain of others” – True.
What Bhagavan says in Gita,
Remain unattached to worldly things because everything is temporary. All Achit tattvams keep changing. Achit also includes our shariram. so do not get attached to this shariram which is not YOU. Shariram is just a costume that keeps changing. Do not get attached to Wealth.Do not be attached to your relatives just because they are your parents/<whoever> because whoever is your relative today was not related to you in previous janmas and might not be related to you in future janmas.
Now why should a sri vaishnavan feel the pain of others and help them ?
brahmane gavi hastini
suni caiva sva-pake ca
Irrespective of what shariram an atma is in, it is the responsibility of a sri vaishnavan to help everyone because all are children of Bhagavan. Only when we see that all are equal and offer our help irrespective of whether it is a Manushya, Sthavara, Janagama etc, Bhagavan’s ullam is happy. Bhagavan is happy as one of his children is helping others.
Someone who worships Bhagavan alone cannot be a srivaishnavan. Unless he sees all the atmas to be similar and equal, unless he feels sad and helps others, he cannot be called srivaishnavan. Generally when our relatives/friends suffer, we feel sad for them but we do not feel sad if a neighbor faces difficulty because we are attached to our sharira bandhus. This is called attachment. But if we start feeling the same for all Jivatmas irrespective of they are related to us or not, that will make Bhagavan happy.
Adiyen Ramanuja Dasan