Love and Marriage

Updated on July 5, 2017 in Karma
15 on June 27, 2017

Let us say a couple is in love and unfortunately they are not able to get married. If they get married to another and still have love towards the Pervious one is it right? I am sure the punishment for even thinking about someone’s wife is sinful act.

 
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Sri:

Sri Velukkudi Swamy Thiruvadigaley Sharanam

It’s unfortunate that chances of such occurance are high in this Kali yuga. That’s why my mother used to say we had marriages within 5 years for girls.

Nowadays it’s called child marriage & prohibited. Result? Question like yours. For periyazhwar 5years was ripe age for Aandaal alias kodhai piratti to get her married.

Even Aandaal loved, but it was Perumal ” Maanidar Ku endru pechu padil vaazhgilen nangaai ” (I won’t get married to humans)

Love na adhu love. Indha azhugi pora shareerathula love irundhaa enna illaati enna? My colleague used to say “Mannu thingara udambu” very right.

So to summarise, redirect the love towards Almighty (Bhakthi) ask him to make us eligible for it like urangaa villi dasar by Ramanujar. That is supreme love. Rest all are kaanal neer Mirage.

Yedhu indru unnodaiyadho netru veroruvan udayadhu nalai veroruvan udayadhu – Bhagavath Gita

Adiyen stepped in before Swamy could answer, apologies this is Kali yugam such question needs quicker attention

Many take extreme steps because of this love thing

Intercaste and second marriages are easily accepted in our SriVaishnavam community nowadays. Sometimes we even get marriage invite for second marriage.

We are asked to Honour it. We have to, because people getting married are financially rich. Nobody questions them. I couldn’t agree though.

As per Srimath Bhagavatham predictions, the person who has more money will be considered righteous. It’s happening these days.

Not sure how they do sankalpam with Gothram? It becomes difficult to adhere. Later on, our mind (Mana saakshi) will kill us. Ayoo thappu pannitomey nu. Instead it’s better to keep aside the so-called cinematic love and go ahead with arranged marriage

Better not to watch Tamil movies or not take it to heart. Don’t chat in Internet. Many of them are even unreal (chatbots or robots). Don’t use social websites and waste time.

If at all use it for spiritual and scientific purpose like this one.

People who are married within community are real fortunates. The quest for spiritual thirst can easily be fulfilled.

Srivaishnavites are well within the realms of this world and are practical. Vyavaharikam – It’s very relevant to this practical world (Yatindra Mata Dipika)

If this answer is irrelevant I request moderators to delete it.

Dasanudasan

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3 on June 27, 2017

@Vikraminside : I appreciate your time and effort to write in.. I am expecting an answer from Swamy, because a well known teacher can understand the depth of the question and give a right references to clear our doubts. Or how to handle it from here, instead of jumping into conclusion of its wrong.. Hope I didn’t hurt you.

on June 29, 2017

@Naresh No problem keep waiting.

on June 30, 2017

@vikraminside : Thanks and I will wait for swamy to answer even if it takes another life.

on June 30, 2017

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எந் நின்ற யோனியுமாய்ப் பிறந்தாய் இமையோர் தலைவா!*
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மனிதனிடம் பொய் நிறைந்த ஞானம் உள்ளது. பொல்லாத ஒழுக்கம் உள்ளது. நல்லொழுக்கம் அவனிடம் இல்லை. அழுக்கேறிய உடல்தான் உள்ளது. சுத்தமான உடல் இல்லை. – இப்படிப்பட்ட மனிதப் பிறவியை வைத்துக்கொண்டு கடவுளைக் காண இயலவில்லை. எனவே அவன் “கடவுள் இல்லை’ என்று சொல்வது எவ்வளவு அபத்தம்.வானவர்களின் தலைவனே! இறைவனே! உலகினைக் காத்து அருளும் நீ, பல வகைப் பிறப்புகளை எடுக்கிறாய். நாங்களோ பொய்யே நிலைபெற்ற அறிவும் , தீய நடத்தையும், அழுக்குப் பதிந்த உடம்பும் கொண்ட மனிதப் பிறவியில் உழல்கிறோம். இப்படிப்பட்ட பிறவி அமையாதபடி நீதான் அருள வேண்டும்

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So far u only replying to all questions .. I m sorry swami, I m not seeing swami here ..

on July 1, 2017

Hare Krishna! Namaskaram!

The message is the same, whether Swami delivers it OR adiyavargal deliver it. Of course, no one is assuming any position here. The gap is in the realization and not in who delivers it.

Sarvam Krishnaarpanam!

on July 1, 2017

Narayana
Our Sri Swami has answered it in En PaNi 699 Love Marriage in Today’s context.
Adiyen could not attend Selaiyur ahobila upanyasam today. Was planning for it.
Adiyargal vaazha aranga nagar vaazha
Sri Swamiye innum oru nootrandirum

on July 2, 2017

I feel so sorry for posting this question, I will never post a question here after.

on July 2, 2017

Hare Krishna! 

Naresh Swami, please do not be sorry and Adiyen apologizes for the comments that may have inadvertently hurt any sentiment/emotions.

Devotees need to be at some wavelength to connect through this forum ‘constructively’ otherwise the comments could easily be misinterpreted though the ‘intention’ is good. And the topics’ ‘sensitiveness’ varies according to the wavelength as well. Hence, however careful we are in choosing the words in the response, it could easily be misinterpreted. All the problems in this world ‘are’ in the mind and its difficult to correct since the mind is the ‘gate keeper’ as well that it does not easily accept that ‘it’ has the problems. That’s where and why, the lord himself and Acharyas ask us to surrender to the lord [which is the essence and conclusion of Bhagavad Gita]. [Of course the surrender is also not easy for it depends on past karma.]

Bg 18.66 — Abandon all varieties of religion and just surrender unto Me. I shall deliver you from all sinful reactions. Do not fear.

Humble request to approach a devotee ‘in person’ to get clarified on the question and the answers provided here.

Sarvam Krishnaarpanam!

Adiyen do not see the approve button to post new topics. I’m using chrome (ver 59.0.3071.115) and it does not look like browser issue.

Please assist.

on July 2, 2017

@Adiyen Swami,
Do not know devareer thirunaamam. Adiyen dasanudasan apologies if I said anything wrong.

Devar can use android Chrome. Create new topic. Click back button. Click Following tab and approve green link corresponding to the question.

@Naresh Swami adiyen sorry if said anything wrong. We all are crossing the same samsara ocean. Just shared adiyen’s Experience.

You are lucky to have Velukkudi Swami’s Divya Smaranam His holiness’s ashirvadham will take you to great heights.

If you are younger to adiyen then my blessings else accept my pranaamams.

Keep posting questions.

Kshamikka Prarthikkiren
Narayana

on July 2, 2017

Hare Krishna! Manikkanum swami, Adiyen’s name – Siva

@ vikraminside swami manikkavum ????

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1 on July 2, 2017

You all have much more knowledge than me… The questions you all post are higher in knowledge.. I am sorry if I was harsh… Siram thazlndhu manipu vendugiren…

on July 3, 2017

Hare Krishna! Namaskaram Swami! Its all mercy of the Lord and Guru/Acharyas.

Bg 10.9 எனது தூய பக்தர்களின் சிந்தனைகள் என்னில் மூழ்கியுள்ளன. அவர்களது வாழ்க்கை எனது தொண்டிற்காக அர்ப்பணிக்கப்பட்டுள்ளது. மேலும், என்னைப் பற்றி தங்களுக்குள் உரையாடுவதிலும் ஒருவருக்கொருவர் உபதேசித்துக் கொள்வதிலும் இவர்கள் பெரும் திருப்தியும் ஆனந்தமும் அடைகின்றனர்.
Bg 10.10 எனக்கு அன்புடன் தொண்டு செய்வதில் இடையறாது ஈடுபட்டுள்ளவர்களுக்கு, என்னிடம் வந்தடைவதற்குத் தேவையான அறிவை நானே வழங்குகிறேன்.
 
Sarvam Krishnaarpanam!
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